Inner Game Tapping

Unleashing The Confident Pick-Up Artist Within You,
using Emotional Freedom Techniques

"All in all some definite observable changes, even after one session. I will definitely be attending another. Thanks Magnus, and we won't mention the Transexual." - Rich P, Bristol

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Limitations of Tapping

There are some things that you just can't tap - here is a precise outline of them.

Most people find that Tapping dramatically reduces Approach Anxiety with just a few rounds - equivalent to maybe two or three viewings of my Approach Anxiety video. For example, Approach Anxiety that they rate an 8 out of 10 for intensity, may drop to a 2 out of 10. It's much easier to ignore the feeling at intensity 2 than at intensity 8. If you're in a decent mood you don't notice it at all, and when you do notice it, it's not as strong, you can approach anyway and the lighter feeling won't make you so uncomfortable in set.

This is a permanent change and it usually doesn't come back. There are two reasons that it might come back. The first, that most people experience, is that they become more attuned to the fainter feeling. So immediately after the Tapping session, they think their Approach Anxiety is totally gone, but actually it's still there, but instead of a 9 it's a 5. For example someone might be used to the paralysing stabbing pains in the back of their head (intensity 9), and when they are gone, they don't notice a dull ache in their chest (intensity 5) until a few approaches have gone by and the high from the Tapping session has worn off.

The other reason is that other feelings dislodged by the first Tapping session sometimes bubble up to the surface. This happens for maybe 1 or 2 out of 10 students I have. It just means they have a few more things to tap. A more thorough technique, as described in the 'Ex-Girlfriend Cleanse' video will deal with this. The reason is that once you've started tapping, your subconscious mind starts thinking of other stuff it wants tapped away. This is a sign it's working, and while it might seem like you have an endless supply of negative emotions and emotionally traumatic memories, you don't. They are all connected and as long as you always go for the earliest ones, the later ones will tap themselves.

You also might 'learn' to get Approach Anxiety again. For example, if you have a rough set and a girl tells you to fuck off, you'll associate that happening with opening. How strong that feeling is depends on your belief system. So you have to go deeper - ask yourself "why does that matter to me?" and tap the answers to those questions too. Then your Inner Game becomes much more robust, and the AA stops growing back.

After quite a bit of tapping, my AA went from an 8 or a 9 to maybe a 0.1, effectively 0. But I don't always approach, because I don't always feel motivated to do so. This isn't Approach Anxiety as such, but I admit it looks pretty much the same in the field. When I see a girl that I like the look of, and there's something I want to say to her, I say it, and I honestly can't remember the last time I didn't do that. That is a reasonable result to expect from Tapping. If you have the feeling you should approach every girl, that's just more unrealistic community rhetoric - you should probably tap it.

There's still a particular feeling that all guys have when a hot girl comes into range, it's the feeling that makes all the guys in the room puff out their chests and stuff or talk loudly when she walks past. This is the only hardwired component of AA I have found, and it's not fear, it's excitement. It's important to distinguish it from the anxiety you have learned from feeling pain around women in the past. You can probably train yourself out of it, or train yourself to enjoy it and channel it into approach motivation instead.

Tapping does not make you an emotionally numb zombie. On the contrary, it actually makes you more able to feel appropriate feelings.

As an example, a close female friend of mine recently moved out of the country. When I left her at the station, I had a deep feeling of loss and rejection in the pit of my stomach - I felt like I'd been dumped. Those feelings weren't relevant to her. My sub-conscious mind was just reminded of the time I'd left a different girl at a different station, 10 years ago, and I was gutted because we really had just broken up. When I realised those feelings were actually associated with the earlier girl, I tapped away the feelings stored within that particular memory, and all that's left is that I miss a good friend - and actually I don't, because we talk often and I'm pleased that she's enjoying her time abroad.

The emotional truth of the current situation surfaces, without being confused or clouded by your past experiences. So when you get rejected for no reason, you realise it's the girl's issue, not yours. When you break up with someone, you feel sad, but you know it's not the end of the world. You still get the pang of jealousy when your girl is hit on by random guys, but you don't get the powerful anger you felt when your ex cheated on you.

Being able to tell the difference between feelings coming from the present moment, and feelings arising because your sub-conscious mind is reminded of a previous time, is a valuable skill. I call it Emotional Literacy. You become more intuitive because you can trust your feelings more. It's an important part of being an emotionally balanced person, and that is a quality that women find very attractive in a man.